No More Sex Shame was created by David J Ley PhD, who has tirelessly fought sex shaming in clinical settings, and the world at large, for the last 10 years.

When asked why he started this project, Dr. Ley had this to share:

“I’ve spent a long time, battling the effects of sexual shame within mental health. What’s clear from sexual research is that it’s the shame that does damage, not the sex. Whether we are talking about homosexuality, porn use, promiscuity or nonmonogamy, or what have you, it’s the social shaming of these behaviors that causes people pain, and leads to depression, stress and life problems. I’ve been fighting this for a long time, and made some progress, but realized I needed to start paying more attention to the positive, empowering elements here. I realized I needed to know more, about how people overcome this shame. I started doing these interviews, so I, and other people, could learn how to personally beat the sexual shame that affects our lives. So far, the response has been great. People are really excited about it. I get requests every day from folks interested. What I’ve loved so far, is that I learn with every interview – there are types of sexual shaming I never expected, and there are beautiful, creative and empowering ways people have beaten sexual shame, and taken control of their lives and sexuality. ”


Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He earned his Bachelor’s degree in Philosophy from Ole Miss, and his Master’s and Doctoral degrees in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is licensed in New Mexico and North Carolina, and has provided clinical and consultative services in numerous other states. He is the Executive Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, NM.

Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. His controversial second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction was released in March 2012, challenging the concept of sexual addiction and exploring a different model of male sexuality. The Myth of Sex Addiction triggered a firestorm of debate, allowing people to finally challenge the media hype of this pseudo-disorder. His new book Ethical Porn for Dicks, A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure is due out in Summer/Fall 2016. Dr. Ley may be contacted via email through the Psychology Today website.